Taking Care of Each Other

Are You Ok?

Too often we assume our colleagues are just having a “bad day;” but what if it’s more than that? Some people choose to separate their work lives from their home lives and manage this successfully. Others find it harder and their feelings and behaviour at work can reflect life events which are happening outside.

The question “are you ok” is often responded to by “I’m fine” and nothing further is said. Sometimes though, following that up with “are you sure you’re ok – you don’t seem it” can lead to someone being able to talk about something that might be bothering them. This could then lead to them gaining some support or being signposted to support networks.

During the sessions, Lin will discuss the importance of actively listening to and validating someone else’s feelings; this is their reality and is impacting on them in all areas of their life. She will also look at boundary setting and how to avoid “getting in over your head” with a situation.

“We need to dispel the myth that empathy is ‘walking in someone else’s shoes.’ Rather than walking in your shoes, I need to learn how to listen to the story you tell about what it’s like in your shoes and believe you even when it doesn’t match my experiences.”

Brene Brown, Atlas of the heart, 2021